How would the quality of your life improve if you could learn to do that?
What makes life challenging for most of us? I would say: Stress!
- On the physical level Stress may make you feel hot, cold, queasy, generate
- headaches, sleepless night, breathing difficulties or even panic attacks.
- On the mind level it may affect your focus, memory, creativity, productivity,
- clarity, decision making
- On the emotional level it may create anxiety, defensiveness, aggression.
to help us function better. It can help us to get moving, to find new solutions, to complete
However, consitant stress can have negative effects on our physical and mental health.
According to UK Government figues in 2015/16 stress accounted for 37% of all work related
ill health cases and 45% of all working days lost due to ill health. The main work
factors cited by respondents as causing work related stress, depression or anxiety were
workload pressures, including tight deadlines and too much responsibility and a lack of
But what is actually going on inside of us that leads us to feel stressed?
We stress out for 2 main reasons:
- We doubt that we have the resource (lack of support, too much responsibility) to cope
- We perceive a situation as dangerous, difficult (tight deadlines), or painful.
something as difficult or painful is essentially Fear. And the fear itself can be a result of
your perception of our reality rather then of reality itself.
So how can we change the way we feel about our situation? Is it Easy? Not necessarily.
However, I often invite my stressed clients to explore 2 simple practices that have
helped many to get started.
1.Take a deep BREATH and
2. Say YES to what you observe
Try this next time when you feel that stress is preventing you from being at your best.
Stop for a moment, take a deep breath, observe what is happening and then, before
reacting simply say “YES” Internally to what you observe; this may be a difficult situation,
person, emotion, thought. Say yes to feeling angry, insecure; say yes to not knowing
what to do; say yes to feeling overwhelmed. Yes, Yes, Yes.
Taking deep BREATHS helps to center ourselves, saying YES iternally in this way signals
to our mind that we are in control:
- By saying YES to what is and not resisting we are more likely to cease feeling
- negative about the situation and we allow our nervous system to relax calming
- our mind and our emotions
- Relaxation increases blood circulation and a sense of wellbeing; More focus and
- clarity is often the reward.
- When we are relaxed we are less likely to react like an emotional ping -pong ball
to situations, to people, to thoughts and are more likely to be calm, creating space
for new insights and solutions to surface.
- Objective assessment of the situation becomes easier.
- We become more likely to act/respond appropriately and /make a decision that
is in line with our own inner wisdom and values.
thoughts about yourself or situations or people daily. YES...this is how I feel, this is what I think.
Watch how it will enhance your ability to face life's challenges with more inner strength and
calmness and respond more appropriately.
And if you are interested to find out more about reducing Stress in your life and work
then you may want to join us for our bi-annual retreats.
"Unplug & Refresh" Mindfulness & Yoga Retreat MAY 12-17, 2017, Aegina, Greece
Christiane Pohl, ACC coaches and mentors senior Managers, Leaders and Business Owners on
stretching their own capabilities and the capabilities of others. She is a Board member of the
Hellenic Coaching Association responsible for Knowledge Development and Peer Coaching programs.
In addition she offers customized Mindfulness Programs for Teams and facilitates Mindfulness retreats.
For more information on coaching programs and mindfulness programs
get in touch with Christiane@morelifemoresuccess.com